Intimacy and co-sleeping: yes, they can coexist!

Introduction

Many couples worry that sharing a family bed will mean less intimacy in their relationship. But is that really true? Several studies suggest that sharing a bed with your children does not necessarily mean compromising intimacy.

Communication Is Key

First, open and honest communication is essential. Talk about what you both need and want, then find solutions together. This might mean making time for each other while the children are asleep or finding other places to be intimate (Troxel et al., 2007).

Creativity and Flexibility

Be creative and flexible about when and where you spend intimate time together. Intimacy doesn't always have to happen in bed. There are plenty of other places around the home where you can be together, and this can add an exciting new dimension to your relationship (Hislop, 2007).

Benefits of Co-sleeping

Studies show that co-sleeping can improve sleep quality and reduce stress levels, which can help foster intimacy between partners (Drews et al., 2020). It can also strengthen the sense of connection and support within your relationship.

Lower Your Expectations

It is also important to lower your expectations and recognise that intimacy can take different forms. Small gestures of love and closeness can be just as meaningful as sexual acts (van Lankveld et al., 2018).

Conclusion

A family bed does not have to spell the end of intimacy in your relationship. By communicating openly, getting creative and lowering your expectations, you can find new ways to stay connected.

Read more advice and insights from Maj Wisman at Samsovning.dk.